How to Live

Life has never been easy,

As you wake up to a new day, 

take your first step with confidence friends, 

no one knows when the journey will end.

Always be alert, you will learn a lot of things along the way.

Pay attention to everything, there are many traps on the way.

In every encounter, your mind is your best weapon and never doubt your belief but always believe in your doubts.

We should all be in good terms with everybody we meet. Take all the advice, but remember to make decisions yourself.

Listen more and avoid arguments, they may lead to a fight.

If you compare yourself with others, you will never be yourself and instead the best you can get to be is number two.

Face life with caution, one of my best friends always tells me that the world is very tricky.

Always aim high, the sky should be the limit.

Dreams are always good, but achievements do not come easy.

Be honest, other people's sweat is bitter.

Just like a soldier, discipline is a must.

Be flexible so that you can adopt everywhere. Know when to let go, everything must not go your way.

Whatever the situation, justice must prevail. Though common sense is not common, you must know when to forgive.

With every day you face, the nearer you come to the exit and therefore live your life to the fullest each day.

LOVE...

TO MY FRIENDS WHO ARE  SINGLE

Love is like a butterfly.

The more you chase it, the more it eludes you.

But if you just let it fly, It will come to you when you least expect it.

Love can make you happy but often it hurts, but love is only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.

TO MY FRIENDS WHO ARE NOT SO SINGLE

Love isn't about becoming somebody else's "perfect person”

It's about finding someone who helps you

Become the best person you can be.

TO MY FRIENDS WHO ARE ENGAGED

The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together

But how good you are for each other

TO MY FRIENDS WHO ARE MARRIED

Love is not about "it's your fault", but "I'm sorry."

Not "where are you", but "I'm right here for you"

Not "how could you", but "I understand"

Not "I wish you were", but "I'm thankful you are

TO MY FRIENDS WHO ARE HEARTBROKEN

Heartbreaks last as long as you want

and cut as deep as you allow them to go

The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks

But to learn from them

TO MY FRIENDS WHO ARE NAIVE

How to be in love:

Be consistent but not too persistent,

Share and never be unfair,

Understand and try not to demand,

And get hurt but never keep the pain.

TO MY FRIENDS WHO ARE POSSESSIVE

It breaks your heart to see the one you love

Happy with someone else

But it's more painful to know that the one you love

Is unhappy with you

TO MY FRIENDS WHO ARE AFRAID TO CONFESS

Love hurts when you break up with someone.

It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you.

But love hurts the most:

When the person you love has no idea how you feel about him/her

TO MY FRIENDS WHO ARE STILL HOLDING ON

A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be, and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn't worth it.

If that person is not worth it now, it’s not going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now.

Let go...

Behind that Plastic Smile

I stood there with a broken heart, but my face was portraying a different story.

They all waved at me, asking why I was so happy all the time.

Deep inside me, I asked why they never saw my bleeding wounds in my heart.

Life gives you lemon, 

Unfortunately everyone else sees lemonade.

We never choose what we want in life, 

but at least I know you can determine what others will see in you.

When I wake up in the morning, 

I get on my knees asking the Most High to grant me success,

That is a prayer and a wish at  the same time.

When I get out of my house however, it all turns to reality,

The hustle to make those wishes come true.

Life is what you make it, so they say.

But at times it does not give you any options.

You learn to live by the only choice life offers,

Success has never been among the options, 

but somehow someway,

you have to make the best come out of you.

A successful person is not the one who has got everything right,

but that one person, 

who knows that things are not working out his or her way

but ensures that at the end of the day,

Things look pretty similar to what he wants.

It is all about trying,

Give it your best as you deal with the worst.

Real life is always disguised behind the 'good life' we see.

BEHIND THAT PLASTIC SMILE.....IS THE REAL YOU!

ADULTHOOD

I always thought that at the age of 18, one became an adult. I am not saying that one does not become an adult at that age, at least the law has that provision, but most of you will bear me witness and with experience being the best teacher, you are never an adult until you clock 20.

I come from a family of five and I am the firstborn. To elaborate on what am saying, I was the guinea pig of the family. I had no elder brother or sister to learn from and therefore I had the chance to experiment all the possible trials that my parents had in mind.

I remember accompanying my dad to the bank many times so that he could pay fees for my younger brothers. The long queues, tiring rounds while doing shopping and worst of all non negotiable requests of giving out pocket money. I started thinking that being an adult is solely being punished by the heavy responsibilities one had. This was however challenged on my 18 birthday as I did not have any responsibilities and on the contrary, I was now free to drink, get a license and make my own decisions. 

With years slowly crumpling under my fun life, it started to dawn on me that I was actually getting into adulthood but not yet. The confusion of holding onto the past life, denying the present and largely worried about the future started masking me. The decisions I could easily make became projects I had to think hard and plan extensively before making a choice.


"What next with my life now?" I started asking myself everyday when I woke up in the morning. I seemed stuck in the present with the fear of moving forward being my biggest stumbling block. Clocking 18 years wasn't a big achievement after all as far as adulthood is concerned.

Each passing day I see thousands of teenagers living life on the sky after attaining 18 years. I have to admit it feels great, I mean if you don't have an idea what you should be doing, doing anything will come in handy. It is however a phase that will come to give you a tormenting time when you realize that a time is coming when you will be required to be an adult by compulsion.